We love each other।
We have expectations from each other
You should be like this ,they too accept that this should change।
We try to control each other for their good( to avoid big problems in future)
We can't see our loved ones dependent or insulted for any reason ।
We like them to be healthy and energetic।
We like them to be respected।
This good expectation,this much needed controlling still creates distress for the other soul
They don't like to be guided things or told about things।।
So,is it better to be separated coz we are suffocating each other's independence, free will and the learning through their experience in their own time.
Or give them time to develop that trust and respect in you so that they are able to accept things they are reluctant to now।
Give them time to have courage to accept their weaknesses and not make it as their identity।
Give them time to fill themselves up।