Freedom from Judgment and Opinion of others

Freedom from Judgment and Opinions of others

https://youtu.be/F0Q33_ZWJNc?si=baAS7PyuguwVzhD4

Above video discusses navigating external judgments and opinions, emphasizing the importance of self-respect and understanding one's own journey. It suggests that external criticisms are often based on limited perspectives and should not dictate one's self-image or destiny. The text also addresses self-judgment, encouraging constructive self-assessment for improvement while cautioning against overly critical internal monologues that lead to demotivation. Ultimately, it advises listening to feedback with neutrality, discerning what is helpful for personal growth, and focusing on one's strengths rather than dwelling on negativity, always with the option to disregard opinions that are not beneficial.

Briefing: Navigating Judgments and Opinions for Personal Stability

This briefing synthesizes key insights from the provided source, "Free from judgements/opinions," focusing on strategies for maintaining stability and self-respect in the face of external and internal judgments. The core message emphasizes the importance of self-knowledge, the temporary and subjective nature of opinions, and the power of individual perception in shaping their impact.

Main Themes:

Self-Knowledge as the Foundation of Stability: The central pillar for remaining stable amidst judgments is a strong sense of self-respect and deep self-knowledge. The source stresses, "I know myself, I know what I am and I know my journey." This understanding of one's own truth is presented as independent of external validation. "My truth does not depend on anyone's opinion." Knowing your complete journey (पूरा जानती हूं) allows you to recognize that others often judge based on limited information – "They have seen me for a particular time... or a particular activity... but they haven't seen my whole journey."

The Temporary and Subjective Nature of External Judgments: Opinions and judgments from others are characterized as "temporary" and often not entirely "true." They are formed from a limited "angle" or "perspective" based on the observer's own "sanskaras" (inherent tendencies/dispositions). The source highlights that "They are telling from their perspective, but they don't know you fully." This understanding helps to neutralize the power of external critiques.

The Harmful Impact of Internalizing Negative Judgments: A crucial warning is issued against internalizing and dwelling on negative judgments, whether from others or oneself. "It's not that if someone says something about me, I also take it inside myself, absorb it into my mind, and repeat their thoughts and words to create my own image and destiny." This act of internalization is seen as allowing "their influence to come upon me." The goal is to project one's "goodness" and "influence others," not to be swayed by them.

Self-Judgment: A Double-Edged Sword: The source acknowledges that we often judge ourselves critically, forming "wrong opinions" or a "wrong image" based on isolated moments of failure or success. Examples include thinking, "Maybe I won't be able to do it, maybe I'm not deserving, maybe I'm not."

Constructive Self-Judgment: When self-judgment leads to a re-evaluation of methods or seeking external help for improvement, it can be "constructive." This is when it's used "for improvement."

Destructive Self-Judgment: However, if self-judgment leads to demotivation, loss of enthusiasm, or premature abandonment of efforts, it is harmful. "If it de-motivates us, meaning it finishes our enthusiasm, our effort... you have ended it midway."

The Power of Perception and Choice in Receiving Opinions: The impact of any opinion, whether positive or critical, ultimately depends on how it is "perceived." The individual has agency in how they receive and utilize these inputs.

Selective Reception: The more one knows oneself, the better equipped they are to "receive only the amount of opinion needed for one's progress" and not "bring oneself down."

Transforming Criticism: It is possible to "convert even critical comments into something positive" and "open the path to move forward." This requires focusing on "strengths and goodness" rather than dwelling on criticism.

The Option to Not Listen: In moments of vulnerability or focused effort, it is acceptable to "not listen at all" to opinions if they are perceived as a "disturbance." This requires self-assessment: "You have to judge yourself when you are ready to take opinions and when you are not."

Most Important Ideas/Facts:

Your truth is independent of others' opinions: "मेरा ट्रुथ जो है वह किसी की ओपिनियन पर डिपेंड नहीं करता है ना" (My truth does not depend on anyone's opinion).

Others' judgments are based on limited perspective: "उन्होंने मुझे अभी कुछ एक पर्टिकुलर टाइम के लिए देखा है... लेकिन उन्होंने मेरी पूरी जर्नी नहीं देखी है ना" (They have seen me for a particular time... but they haven't seen my whole journey).

Do not internalize negative opinions: Avoid "taking it inside myself, absorb it into my mind, and repeating their thoughts and words to create my own image and destiny."

Our goal is to influence others positively, not be influenced negatively: "हमें करना यह है कि हमें अपना इन्फ्लुएंस दूसरों पर डालना है हमारी गुडनेस का इन्फ्लुएंस उनके ऊपर जाए" (We have to put our influence on others, the influence of our goodness should go upon them).

Self-judgment can be constructive for improvement but destructive if it leads to demotivation: "अगर उससे हम डी मोटिवेट होते हैं... तो इससे क्या होता है इससे हमारा जो एफर्ट है वो जैसे कि आपने उसको मिडवे ही उसको आपने खत्म कर दिया है ना" (If it de-motivates us... then what happens is that our effort, for example, you have ended it midway).

The problem is not the opinion, but how we perceive it: "ओपिनियन इ नॉट प्रॉब्लम प्रॉब्लम इ कि हम उसको कैसे परसी करते हैं" (Opinion is not the problem, the problem is how we perceive it).

You have the choice to receive or disregard opinions: "अगर आप नहीं बिल्कुल एंटरटेन करना चाहते तो भी ठीक है" (If you don't want to entertain it at all, that's also fine).

In conclusion, the briefing emphasizes that achieving stability amidst judgments requires a robust sense of self-worth, an understanding of the subjective nature of opinions, and the conscious choice to selectively process information in a way that promotes personal growth rather than self-diminishment.